Household expenses list for couples, with averages
Every cost a shared household has, grouped so you can count them, with what the average US household spends and a way to decide who pays what.
Checked October 27, 2026
The list, by group
Use this as a checklist. Cross out what you do not have and add what you do. Next to each, write the monthly amount. Divide yearly costs by twelve and quarterly ones by three.
| Group | Costs to count | Usually |
|---|---|---|
| Housing | Rent or mortgage, property tax, renters or home insurance, repairs, HOA, electricity, gas, water, trash, internet, phone | Fixed, plus some variable |
| Food | Groceries, household supplies, eating out, coffee, delivery | Variable |
| Transportation | Car payment, car insurance, gas, parking, tolls, transit, repairs, registration | Mixed |
| Insurance and health | Health insurance, doctor and dental visits, prescriptions, life insurance | Fixed, plus some variable |
| Everything else shared | Streaming, memberships, pets, gifts, travel, a date night, clothing for the household | Mixed |
What the average household spends
The Bureau of Labor Statistics runs the Consumer Expenditure Surveys every year. For 2024, released December 19, 2025, it reports these averages for all households, as annual figures. The monthly figure is the annual one divided by twelve.
| Category | Per year | Per month |
|---|---|---|
| Housing | $26,266 | $2,189 |
| Transportation | $13,318 | $1,110 |
| Food | $10,169 | $847 |
| Healthcare | $6,197 | $516 |
| Entertainment | $3,609 | $301 |
| Cash contributions | $2,292 | $191 |
| Apparel and services | $2,001 | $167 |
| Total, all spending | $78,535 | $6,545 |
A few details inside those numbers help with a list. Food at home was $6,224 and food away from home $3,945. Rented dwellings averaged $5,660 and owned dwellings $9,310, a difference that reflects who is counted in each group, not a rent versus buy answer. Vehicle insurance averaged $1,993. Health insurance averaged $4,055.
These are averages of very different households, so use them as a rough check. If your housing is far above the average, it does not mean you did something wrong. It may mean you live somewhere expensive. For a view by share of income, see how much to spend.
Fixed, variable and yearly
Sort each line on your list into one of three kinds.
- Fixed. The same every month: rent, a car payment, insurance premiums. Easiest to plan.
- Variable. Changes with use: groceries, utilities, gas. Plan with a typical month, then a range.
- Yearly or occasional. Car registration, a vet visit, holiday gifts. Divide by twelve and set that amount aside each month so the bill does not feel like a surprise. A sinking fund is the name for this.
Finding what you missed
Lists made from memory are always short. Open three months of statements from each of your accounts and look for anything that repeats. The usual misses are annual subscriptions, insurance billed twice a year, a gym, app fees, and small monthly charges that add up. Each goes on the list, even if it feels small.
When you are done, add up the total. Compare it to what comes in each month after tax. If the list is bigger than the pay, you have found the most useful thing the exercise can show, and you can solve it together before it becomes a fight.
Who pays what
Decide which lines are shared and which belong to one of you. A simple test: if you both use it or it exists because of the household, it is shared. If it is only for one of you, it is theirs. Then pick a rule for the shared ones.
| Rule | Example with $2,600 shared a month |
|---|---|
| Half each | $1,300 and $1,300 |
| By income, take-home of $4,500 and $2,500 | Shares of 64% and 36%, so about $1,671 and $929 |
| One pays housing, the other pays the rest | Works when each side is close to even. Check it after a few months. |
The guide to splitting bills by income shows how to work out the shares step by step, and the fair split calculator does it for you. If you pay for something that is really the other person's, the paying a partner back guide explains how to settle up.
Keep the list alive
A household list goes stale. Prices rise, a lease renews, a subscription changes. Look at it on a schedule. Once a quarter is enough for most couples, and a monthly money date is better. Update any line that changed, and ask whether each cost is still worth what you pay.
This is general information, not financial advice. Averages describe households in the survey, not what any one household should spend.
Questions people ask
What counts as a household expense?
Any cost of running your shared life: housing, utilities, food, insurance, transportation, health care and the things you both use. Costs that are only one person's, such as a hobby or a personal subscription, are usually kept on that person's own list.
What is the biggest household expense?
Housing. The Bureau of Labor Statistics reports that US households spent an average of $26,266 on housing in 2024, which was 33.4 percent of all spending, ahead of transportation at $13,318.
What is the difference between fixed and variable household expenses?
A fixed expense is the same each month, such as rent or an insurance premium. A variable one changes, such as groceries or a power bill. Annual costs, like a car registration, are a third kind, best handled by setting money aside each month.
How do we split household expenses?
Most couples use half each or a split by income. Half each is simple. A split by income asks each person to cover the share of the total that matches their share of take-home pay, which tends to feel fairer when incomes differ.
Should I include my partner's personal spending?
Keep it off the shared list. Give each person their own line for personal spending, so the shared list stays about what you both use.
How do I know if my list is complete?
Look back through three months of bank and card statements. Anything that repeats and is missing from your list belongs on it. Add yearly costs by dividing by twelve.
Sources
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Every number on this page comes from bls.gov. If a source has changed since, the source is right.
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